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Tuesday, 22 December 2009

  • How to Behave in a Gentleman's Club

    I don't know how often I must say this, but it doesn't seem to get through to most people. If you can not afford to go to a strip club/gentleman's club... don't. If you can not control your sexual urges... do not participate. If you still can not get it through your skulls that the women dancing for you and entertaining you are not available, please find a dance club or regular bar and pick up a girl there. It's cheaper.

    Women, the girls of the adult entertainment industry (at least the respectable ones) are not after your man. If you do not trust your own husband or boyfriend to attend one, then maybe they are not the one for you. If you feel jealousy when you see us dancing you have two options: 1. Get over it. 2. Learn to pole dance.

    Dancers, if you are incapable of turning down a customer for dates. This is not the job for you. If you too often feel the need to go further than is required in this field, quit and become either an escort or a porn actress.

    Exotic dancers are meant to be just that. We are not cheap whores. We are not escorts and we are not out to make your women jealous or to take your men. If marital problems persist due to this, it is not our responsibility. We provide a service and if you choose to partake in said service you had better be prepared to handle it. Do not ruin it for those that know how to provide/use the service correctly. It is tiring and uncalled for behavior. Grow up and behave like adults should. That is why it is the adult industry and not Disney Land.

    More etiquette to consider:
    Dancers, drinking too many shots and too much beer doesn't really make you more money or any more fun to be around. It's actually quite distasteful and irritating. If you can not handle your liquor do not drink. Many men/couples appreciate that.
    Dancers, if your club provides dollar dances use them as a promotional tool. Too much is like a promotional ad for a movie giving away all the good parts. Why pay to watch the whole thing at this point?
    Also, overly sexual performances on stage is not classy. It's also giving away too much. If you'll stroke your own cooter on stage for a dollar, why would they bother with you afterwards? That is, unless you are willing to offer more than is required. If that is the case, you need to seriously reconsider you current job choice.
    Sit with every customer you can. Even if they don't look like they are spending money. Too often I hear complaints like, "no one sat down all night. I had $200 ready to spend." While some are just boasting and are mad that no one sat with them, others are just too shy to come and find you. Besides, he might only be able to offer you $20 this time, but next time he could give you much more.
    Drugs and alcohol are not requirements to dance. Use this job as a means to pay for your education, build on your nest egg, etc. You know...be responsible.

    Customers, no grab ass. It is called a gentleman's club for a reason. If you're wondering why you should bother taking a girl to the back couches if you can't touch, then this is not the activity for you.
    Please, watch your drinking. While you are supposed to have a Dionysian good time, this sort of behavior makes it harder for the women to really entertain you. That is why you are there, correct?
    If you see a girl performing amazing pole tricks, or wonderful stage shows in anyway, get up and tip her. In today's age, most exotic dancers are paid only by you. Don't make us work for free. Coming to see free tits is pathetic.
    Avoid being rude to the dancers and staff. Especially if they are trying their hardest to show you a good time. If a girl you are not interested in comes to sit down next to you, politely tell her you are waiting for someone else. Odds are she will find someone for you.
    Making it rain is fine, but do not expect for the girl to allow you to feel her up at the same time. Also, do not expect that the girl will interrupt her show for you. This is not her being rude, she's just really into it. Appreciate it as if it were theater. Would you expect an actor to stop what she's doing?
    No fighting in the club. Damn what the other guy just said to you. You have tits and ass running around, why are you paying attention to him? It's not worth it and you'll be hard pressed to find a girl to sit with you next time (provided management lets you back in).


    If these guidelines are followed then people can have a pleasant experience at gentleman's clubs.  If you do not follow these guidelines, whether wife/girlfriend, customer or dancer, it is your own fault the trouble you find yourself in.



Sunday, 20 December 2009

  • War against Strip Clubs

     
    I am too tired and lazy to write my own blog about this particular group, but I will share several articles with you. Here is one.
     
     
     
     
    ACE NATIONAL STATE OF THE UNION:
    Turning Plight into Fight

    By
    Michael Ocello, ACE National President
    &
    Angelina Spencer, ACE National Executive Director


    “If grown adults cannot decide what is acceptable or unacceptable, we will decide for them,”
      —CCV President Phil Burress addressing a crowd at a June 2003 CCV Impact America Summit held in Columbus, Ohio.



    Many Americans still question whether or not we are safe at home after 9/11. The conquest of Iraq was completed, we were told, but there has lately been overwhelming concern that this “war” is costing billions of dollars, requiring thousands of troops and several years to be successful.

    Meanwhile, back in the U.S., many citizens also find themselves struggling with unemployment, debt, soaring health care, home mortgage foreclosures, inflation, profit loss and a lackluster presidential pick.

    Despite such serious issues, what was the most popular trend for state and local politicians to legislate this year? Strippers. But that wasn’t all…we were also subjected to more federal obscenity investigations.

    Whether it is at your local, state or federal level, the war against adult entertainment has upstaged more paramount issues due to the strategic planning initiatives of Christian conservatives. But restricting the rights of Americans to the type of adult entertainment they are permitted to enjoy and eliminating “local control”, is only one part of the battle. The other is a calculated and massive campaign of disinformation, lies and propaganda.

    For example, the CCV Citizens Courier recently published an editorial by its president Phil Burress. He claimed that Dr. Jeffery Satinover’s (Yale University)“research” proved that when “normal” people are exposed to strippers in strip bars, brain chemicals change and cause humans to lose control, which in turn leads to depravity, abuse, broken marriages, blighted property and sexual addiction.

    The war against adult entertainment is a censorship campaign run by a small minority of individuals carrying hefty political clout. Hear us: In their minds, they have a calling from God to put you out of business. They will tell the general public that they want to lower crime and protect women and that they only hope to “restrict” adult business, not eradicate. Yet they do not have the courage of their convictions to state the true motive behind their censorship war: Spiritual snobbery and hypocrisy. You see, it wouldn’t be palatable to the masses for groups like the CCV to admit that they are on a quest to interfere with American freedom and choice. It is not popular to proclaim that their true hope is some Utopian idea of mass Christian conversion back to the “Beaver Cleaver” era of the 1950’s.

    When organizations such as the CCV speak out against adult entertainment they rarely mention the millions of consumers who enjoy our clubs. Instead they focus on and describe adult operators and first amendment lawyers as smut peddlers and porn protectors who abuse women and keep our ladies plied with drugs so they will continue to act as our slaves. The women in our industry who work as dancers, actors or features are portrayed as drug-induced whores who spread sexual diseases and wreck marriages.

    This is all accomplished under the ruse of Negative Secondary Effects “Studies” that are waved before legislatures like a pin-pulled grenade; Studies that would never pass scientific scrutiny or appear in a reputable journal. The studies which have been peer reviewed and published by reputable professionals are omitted or dismissed as quack material, in favor of “opinions” by individuals who are touted as “experts” by the CCV, but aren’t really.

    And then there are two other big issues: 1. a few club owners give the CCV exactly what they need to persecute the rest of us legitimate operators and 2. Some of the women in this industry lap up the “I’m a victim” milk in some vain attempt to garner extra dollars or sympathy, not realizing that everything they say against the work they do and love is being noted and used against them by the CCV to destroy their choices.

    Members of the CCV and the 24 other like-minded organizations who engage in censorship use fear, money, and political influence to coerce politicians into proclaiming that adult entertainment is a poison worse than a weapon of mass destruction. It seemed to be working for them until something happened.

    The people pushed back.

    When the CCV finally passed its “Community Defense Act” against adult entertainment in Ohio, the people there didn’t blindly capitulate. They began to question the veracity of the CCV’s claims and also the character of the CCV’s self-annointed “morality police”.

    Astute Ohioans smelled the stench of brimstone bigotry and launched their own google searches to discover that Ohio’s leader of virtue, Phil Burress, was a thrice married, twice bankrupt, self-admitted porn lover and adulterer who carried on an affair with his third wife while still in Christian marriage counseling with his second! They also uncovered that he had his divorce records sealed in Brown County, Ohio because his ex wife had threatened to go public regarding some questionable financial practices within the CCV.

    The measure to restrict clubs in Ohio did pass…in a watered-down format. Still…the questions posed by the people have resulted in an ongoing investigation by the Ohio Secretary of state into the CCV finances and a push for a referendum to repeal the law. This would not have happened had it not been due to the stellar efforts of people like media consultant Sandy Theis, lobbyists Neil Clark, William Fitzgibbons and Denny Larr, BACE president and treasurer Luke Liakos and Jim Everett and outstanding testimony against the measure by attorney Raymond Vasvari and dancer Charity Feickesen.

    As the Ohio Chapter of ACE collects signatures for a referendum they hope to get on the November 2007 ballot to repeal the law, the CCV games have continued. Citizens for Community Standards (CCS) is a PAC created for the referendum. It was recently the target of a cease and desist letter from CCV lawyers, who claimed trademark infringement on the CCV’s name.

    Their letter was answered by attorney Michael Murray who refused the cease and desist and filed a CCV trademark cancellation suit instead.

    As our industry evolves, so too, does the collective intelligence of the American people. They have grown ever more suspicious of fundamental groups like the CCV and their propaganda. For the first time we can remember, many people are defending this industry on business, local control, privacy and free speech grounds, even if they don’t necessarily find the industry appealing.

    Since the year 1999, when ACE National was formed we’ve seen several court cases involving our industry move all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court, notably the 2000 PAPS AM v. City of Erie case which served as the fire to light the formation of ACE…but as Dave Manack of ED Publications stated in his May editorial… “We’ve never seen anything like this!”

    He’s right. We’ve never seen local and state governments take such a broad swipe against the industry using the sword of legislation given to them by CCV attorney Scott Bertghold. “The Community Defense Act” is the “Trojan Horse” of the theocrats being given to every state that will open its gates to receive this specious “gift”.

    We have been blinded by the smoke and mirrors and Trojan horses of these socially conservative organizations and the fact that groups like the CCV have been militant in political influence, placement, fundraising, voter registration and propaganda. We have been ignorant of the fact that their PR firms are capable of spinning better webs of twisted context than an episode of Harry Potter. With our success still come the labels that need to be changed: we are too often portrayed in the media as “X-rated” businesses while the CCV is still seriously mislabeled as possessing “family values”.

    However, the smoke clears once in a while and we do experience moments of victory on our fields of battle.

    Three huge victories were scored this year when L.A., Seattle and Scottsdale voters repealed restrictive adult legislation and basically told groups like the CCV to butt out of their bedrooms, privacy, lives and choices. These victories have prompted ACE National to research the referendum process in detail under the man who played a big part in all three victories, Mr. John Weston. The result is a published advocacy booklet on the process designed to help the industry do battle using this very valuable alternative.

    Moving on, the entire state of Texas woke up one morning to the news that two female senators had introduced state wide legislation that levied a $5 per head tax on every customer who entered a gentlemen’s club. Get this: The money would be used to fund sexual assault and response programs. Freshman representative Ellen Cohen who introduced the passed measure said of the clubs, “We are talking about a service that does objectify women and this seems like a good place to raise those kinds of dollars.”

    Then there was Houston…where we had a problem…and then we didn’t…but we may again…a three judge panel of the 5th circuit court of appeals in New Orleans issued a stay of enforcement in May that allows some clubs to remain operational…at least for the moment, pending a hearing possibly in August. The city had prepared an aggressive campaign, spearheaded by Mayor Bill White against 130 adult businesses, that was stopped dead in its tracks thanks to the efforts of ACE advisory attorney John Weston and his partner Randy Garrou. Weston hopes to move forward and prevail on the appeal.

    Meanwhile, adult operators in El Paso were also subjected to legislation. El Paso leaders who passed adult entertainment restrictions requiring dancers to remain six feet away from patrons are now being sued by club owners seeking a temporary injunction to keep the law from taking effect in August. Thankfully, the state of Oregon still has some sense when it comes to the rights of adults. The state Supreme Court there upheld lap dancing as protected speech under their Constitution, but the opposing attorneys are still considering an appeal.

    The New Jersey Cabaret Association led by Mr. Jeff Levy led one of the most frightening battles against the adult industry. AVN’s Mark Kernes reported that New Jersey adult entertainment was fighting three bills, all loaded with onerous restrictions. One was tabled but two sailed out of their committees. Even the League of Cities opposed some of the measures in the introduced legislation! It was through the tireless efforts of the NJ adult cabaret and retail community that garnered this chapter some support in terms of positive studies, testimony, and attorney intervention by Daniel Aaronson.

    In Alabama, latex was the key to a compromise struck in January by ACE Advisory Attorney Luke Lirot and the state of Alabama regarding dancer nudity restrictions. Evidently, applying more latex means the dancers can remain on the right side of the law to prevent provoking the anti-nudity ordinance there.

    We have just heard from ACE of Alaska where Carol Hartman, who heads the chapter there, has been incommunicado for months as she and her sister Cathy continue to battle in Anchorage where elected officials seem to be able to arbitratily change the laws in an effort to keep hindering clubs there from doing business. Stay tuned for a future feature article in ED regarding the fight on the tundra.

    Many of us were surprised to turn on the history channel on a cold evening in January to see some familiar faces of ACE National highlighted in an A& E special entitled: Gentlemen’s Clubs Revealed. The American public met some of our club owners, lawyers and industry providers in a documentary that positively reflected the change and growth in our industry and offered viewers an accurate portrayal of adult clubs as legitimate and healthy businesses.

    Florida saw the February 2007 formation of the Sunshine Entertainment Association after Hillsborough County Commissioner Ronda Storms met with CCV attorney Scott Bertghold to pass her nonbinding adult entertainment referendum. She then went on to become a state senator. The state of Florida was suddenly saddled with approximately 12 bills aimed against the industry, including the especially onerous “prostitution bill” which would have given disgruntled dancers club ownership if they cooperated with law enforcement by bringing allegations against the clubs. All of the introduced bills in Florida were killed thanks to the lobbyists and lawyers put in place ahead of the legislation. But the future of this fledgling organization remains precarious for next session if more adult businesses fail to join the fight.

    In Missouri, club owners like Dick Snow and their executive director Ann Michael saw senator Matt Bartle try to resurrect his anti-adult legislation to no avail. Just when they thought they had cleared the 2007 legislative session, they learned that social conservative crusader Phil Cosby had set up camp in Missouri to convince politicians to launch investigations and levy charges against adult businesses. It remains to be seen whether or not his efforts will reap anything except rolled eyes.

    On a charitable note, club owners Jerry Reid Jr. of Pure Gold in South Carolina and Jim Halbach of Diamond Jim’s in Wisconsin showed their altruism in 2007 by donating thousands of dollars to a help a local children’s hospital and to pay for a town fireworks display respectively.

    We have battled this year all over the U.S. We have field operations in 27 states. Our attorneys stand ready in all 50 states.

    The time has come to connect these camps into one formidable enemy against the purveyors of censorship. It is not up to one club owner, lawyer, lobbyist or club chain to fund all of the challenges we face. It is not realistic to expect ACE National to ride in like the cavalry if a state industry has failed to prepare for battle.

    However, we will continue to train new soldiers of free speech. We will continue to fight to uphold our forefather’s idea of a Republic run as a democracy. We will continue to honor those soldiers unable to enjoy our clubs due to war duty, by fighting for the same rights in which they give their lives: the freedom to pursue the dream of opportunity and enterprise we all share as Americans.

Tuesday, 15 December 2009

  • Sexuality Jihadists

    No, I'm not even talking about Muslims. While I know that this is the Holiday season and I should be a little more careful in what I say about Christians and such... but this goes to the heart of my current profession and I can not let it slide. Besides, I don't celebrate the holidays anyway.

    Our government has been infiltrated by people belonging to various organizations built specifically towards adopting theocratic laws against the strip club and porn industries. Since I do not work in porn I can make no comment on it. I will focus on strip clubs and how their civil liberties are being threaten simply because Christians fear that " the femininity of the women and masculinity of the males (for entirely different reasons of course) are being threatened".  What a load of crock! Sometimes I wonder if people like these just reach real deep in their asses, pull out what ever they can find, eat it and then regurgitate what's left to the general masses.
    I digress. It is no secret that Christians have been on a crusade to shut down strip clubs since their birth, but I want to educate the people as to why they are wrong about them. While, yes, clubs can have a problem with prostitution (which I have no problem with, except that it interferes with my money) and drugs, but that is a very small percentage of the strip club population. Most exotic dancers are just that, dancers that move exotically.They are multifaceted performers. They act to give men/women/couples a fantasy. They exhibit grace (like a ballerina), sexuality (like a belly- dancer) and physical prowess (like a gymnast). It is, essentially, a form of entertainment.
    It is, and I will acknowledge this, not a form to be experienced by everyone. Most people (both entertainers and customers alike) can not handle it. They will feel the need to go further or the stress (on the dancers) will become too much to handle, but that is not something to be regulated by government. That is managements purpose. If it gets out of hand, that is when police can interfere, but only with reasonable cause.
    For those that have the capacity to dance for men and exhibit a fantasy environment with out harm to our own psyches, having someone else tell us that we are either incapable of truly doing so, or if we are we are morally corrupt and must be punished for it, is an insult. For those that complain about fascist government like tactics,  here is a factual one. This industry is about choices. The industry is not responsible if your wife feels less feminine and your visiting results in marital problems. The industry is not responsible if you feel too sexually charged. Those are personal problems. There are plenty of men and women of various socioeconomic background that harbor more class than people give them credit for when it comes to both ends of  participation in the strip clubs.
    Just some food for thought.
    There will be more on the subject, but I'm tired and this is making me angry.

Thursday, 03 December 2009

  • Hypocracy in the American Psyche

    I know that people are scared right now. The economy sucks, we are in two wars, health care... oh don't get me started, and our government is still too incompetent to handle it; however, I want to remind all the naysayers of the current administration that it is not their fault (at least completely) if America suddenly ends up like Rome in the next few years.
    I still remember, all too well, an administration that took a grand surplus and turned it into an even grander deficit for an uncalled for war. An administration that not only lied to us, but used our own fear to gain the power to take away more rights and liberties than any democratic nation (or republic as we really are) should allow. An administration that started the fear-mongering and paranoia that continues to this day. The administration that started bailing out companies for being irresponsible.
    So in conclusion, if you are pissed at Obama for his transgressions and lack of action this time... I surely hope that you were pissed off at Bush. If not, you are a hypocrite and/or a sheep. Do not blame the load of shit that has hit this country purely on a man who hasn't even spent an entire year in office.
    If we continue to overlook facts and only pay attention to those that are brought to us via pundits and analysts from Faux News and MSNBC, then the government will never have a reason to take us seriously.

Friday, 27 November 2009

  • Say Goodbye whores!!!!

    Not that most people care, I haven't had a really productive night at work for some time now due to the overwhelming amount of dirty, whorish antics that have been on display at my club. Dollar dances seemed like private dances. Private dances seemed like out and out sex (and for the most part they were), until now. My club has finally listened to the cries of their honest, hard working entertainers and now... after only two days of instituting the new rules... the clean girls are making money.
    If you are wondering what constitutes an honest, but good lap dance, I will happily write another blog about it, but hand/blow jobs are not it.
    Now don't get me wrong, I am an advocate for prostitution, but not in the strip club. This industry if for mid to upper income gentlemen/couples to come in, relax or party safely with a little bit of make-believe. It is all about fantasy and performance. Entertainment if you will. It is about a girl performing on the pole with phenomenal tricks or interesting and engaging stage work. It is not crass, unless in jest. It is not slutty (well maybe a little), and finally my club has realized it! Kudos to you Jim!!!

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